Friendship killers you must AVOID!!
Good friends are really hard to come by, and acquiring good friends is only half the battle. The other half is keeping them if you want to keep really good friends then you have to watch out for these friendship killers and I suggest you don’t do them too.
Gossip: gossip is simply mischievous talk about the affairs of others, gossip separates close friends. A good friend will keep what he or she knows in confidence unless someone in authority needs to be notified for some reason whatsoever. REMEMBER someone you gossip with you will gossip about you with someone else.
Selfishness: how can we expect to keep the company of others if we are only concerned about ourselves? If we act unselfishly we will encourage our friendships to grow.
Our friends will make mistakes why? Because they are human! As our friends miss and then turn from their mistakes, we are to forgive them, because you are also capable of making a mistake too, so be careful of your words, be careful of you’re the friends you pick.
We may have friendships even now that you already know will be forever. Treasure those friendships. We only have a few like that.
Sometimes you have to move away or your friends move away, but remember: nothing can stop you from communicating these days.
There is a big difference between an acquaintance and a true friend people you simply hang out with will come and go,but a true friend will always be there for you. Recognizing the difference will help you develop relationships that will last. Here are three traits of a true friend:
Honesty: a true friend will tell you the truth no matter how nasty the situation is or even if it may initially hurt your feelings. Having someone who will give you an honest answer is priceless.
Dependability: the people who truly value their friendship with you will always keep their word. If you cannot count on someone or if they cannot count on you, your friendship will not last.
Respect: mutual respect is a large part of a good friendship. If someone Is not respected, their opinions and feelings will be discounted and overlooked. Without respect a friendship will simply not work.
“In the cookies of life, friends are the chocolate chips”
And In our last but not the least episode of friend we will be looking at friendship killers you must avoid.
Three secrets to making new friends.
Everyone wants to be liked. People want friends, people want friends they could always call and say “let’s go to the movies” or “hey, I think there’s something wrong with me could you come over let’s talk”. And even if those who seem a little “stuck up” want to be friendly. So here are three secrets that will help you make new friends.
Be friendly: it seems obvious, but many people get so focused on other things that they miss the people and possible relationships passing them by. Grab each opportunity to build new relationships by doing the small things that make it happen. Say “hello” introduce yourself or smile. Make the first effort by showing yourself friendly.
Focus on others: people want to talk about things that really matter to them but if you spend hours talking about yourself alone or about your bad day to someone you just met, don’t be surprised if they start avoiding you. Make the effort to find out what they like and things that you have in common. In your moments of having a great conversation be a good listener too.
Do kind things without looking for credit: the simple principle of sowing and reaping works in friendships too. If you begin to go out of your way to sow into the lives of people, you will begin to reap the kinds of friends that you want.
Remember when you choose your friends you are actually choosing your future, I have heard it and said it this way: it is good to have friends you can learn from. STOP and write a list of all your friends and beside their names write the good things you have learnt from them if there’s nothing then you should think twice about them. It is good to have friends who will challenge you and advice you in the right way. We can learn so much from others if we humble ourselves and wait on them and listen to them .find out in our next episode the three marks of a true friend.
Welcome to the first edition of NinmasPurpleBook..
In this first episode we will be focusing on friends so come on with me and find out how you can be a true friend to the end. Know the ropes, get inside the scoop, navigate the everyday, stick together and learn to be real. Friends are Great, wild and crazy, fun and exciting, “What a funny piece of advice!” the girl thought, don’t I have sisters I could always be with? Don’t I have class mates I could always hang out with? My cousins are there too or eventually I will get married soon and the family we start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile.
But she listened to her mother and realized that in some situations a friend is what you need to get you through. She kept contact with her friends and gradually came to understand what her mom was talking about. As time and nature changes and their mysteries upon a human, friends are the main stays of life and after several years of living in this world here is what I have learned.
Time passes, life happens, distance separates, children grow up, jobs come and go, people pass away, colleagues forget favors, careers and all but…
…friends are there no matter how much time and miles are between you, when you have to walk that lonelysome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, your friends will be on the valleys’ rim. Cheering you, praying for you, intervening on your behalf and waiting with open arms at the valleys end sometimes they will even break the rules and walk beside you or come in and carry you.
Find out in our next episode the three secrets to making new friends.