Can i just kill Mr.Monday?

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We all hate Mondays because they just tend to kill the fun of the weekends and are the most critical time of the weel but on a second thought they set stage for the day and the week ahead and make things work hehe!

Because you’ve stepped away for a couple days, these back-to-work mornings are the most memorable for the rest of the week.Most successful people are keenly aware of the typical Monday-morning workplace dynamic of unanticipated events, overflow of communications, and general chaos. “But after weathering hundreds of them, they realize they must gain control and stay upbeat.

Here are 16 things successful people do on Monday mornings:

  1. They wake up early. 

Successful people go to sleep at a decent hour on Sunday night, get a good night’s sleep, and wake up early Monday morning.

When the alarm goes off and the voice tells you that you went to bed far too late to get up this early, or that five more minutes won’t hurt, DON’T LISTEN!” “When you are in charge of the inner voice, there will be no stopping you.”

  1. They exercise.

Working out gets your circulation going and helps you stay alert, putting you at an advantage for a productive week ahead. You’ll get your endorphin rush, which will help your mood, too,

  1. They eat a healthy breakfast. 

On Monday morning, you want to handle everything you have control over. Eating breakfast is one of those things. “You don’t want to be staring at the clock, awaiting lunch time as your stomach growls at morning meetings.

  1. They arrive early. 

Do not succumb to the snooze button. Getting in earlier than others will help make Monday morning seem more like the afternoon because you’ll have had a chance to breathe before responding to the barrage of people and issues. Being an early bird will give you some wiggle room for the unexpected at work, not to mention any important personal matters that may arise.

  1. They clear their desk and desktop

Hopefully you already did this before you left on Friday. But if you didn’t, get this out of the way, or you might add to Monday stresses in a sea of disorganization. Organize and prioritize your files. Put aside unimportant paperwork and keep critical files easily accessible. You want to be prepared when you, your boss, or colleagues need something at the last minute.

  1. They carve out time for unexpected projects and tasks.

Successful individuals expect the unexpected on Monday. Your boss, team members, or staff may have remembered some loose ends over the weekend, so you’re wise to build in some extra down time on Monday morning.”

  1. They greet their team and boss. 

This is important to do first thing every morning to keep morale high, but on Monday it’s particularly valuable, as your team needs a special boost. “Ideally, you’ll spend an few extra minutes with your colleagues on Monday mornings. It reinforces a sense of purpose and community for everyone, including you.

  1. They update their to-do list and goals.

Get yourself current on priorities and tasks. Then set five to eight goals for the week.

Accomplished professionals have several goals in mind for the day and week,” she says. “They know that if all goals aren’t achieved, they can take pride in accomplishing most of them, and there’s next week to achieve additional objectives.”

  1. They visualize the week’s successes. 

By envisioning the positive outcomes of various projects at hand, you can work backward and determine the necessary steps to get your desired results.

  1. They screen emails for urgent requests.

You can sink into email oblivion if you don’t scan your inbox for urgency. Star emails that are priorities and think quality, not quantity.

  1. They tackle the tough challenges first.

The least desirable but critical projects are easy to put off, but your energy is stronger in the morning, so that’s the ideal time to confront the most difficult assignments.

  1. They make an extra effort to smile.

It might be the last thing on your mind, but overcompensating for the pressure cooker morning will help you get through it. You may well stand out in the crowd, but your smile will likely be contagious, helping both you and team members relax.

  1. They add a “blanket of humanity” to their emails. 

It’s tempting to power through all your emails in the most efficient way on Monday mornings. But before you hit send, read them over to ensure that they’re friendly and clear. “Put yourself in the recipient’s shoes. It’s relatively easy to appear curt when you’re in a hurry, along with the impersonal nature of emails and texts. You want to mitigate false starts and misinterpretations. One way to do this: Start the email by saying “Hi” and “I hope you had a great weekend.”

  1. They’re able to say no. 

On Monday mornings there will be many distractions — from people, to emails, to calls, meetings, offers for meeting in the break room, and so forth,” Taylor explains. “Successful people can diplomatically and politely say no to colleagues by offering to engage at a later time.”

If your boss needs you, that is clearly an exception. However, if you have crucial calls to make or meetings to attend, give your boss the heads-up. “It’s stressful to be a people pleaser, particularly on Monday mornings. Generally, no one ends up being pleased, as you can’t do your best work with conflicting priorities.”

  1. They stay focused.

Successful people don’t dwell on any challenging events that occurred over the weekend, or other frivolous thoughts.

  1. They remember that there is Tuesday.

In all the chaos it’s easy to believe that the world will cave if you don’t solve all Monday’s problems on Monday. But when the dust settles at the end of the day, you may realize that certain tasks could have waited. Sometimes you obtain more information over time that enhances your decision-making. Or you may find that certain problems you’re pondering will resolve themselves.

Monday morning can challenge even the most industrious, successful business leaders. But if you compensate for all the anticipated distraction and intensity by remembering to focus, plan, and stay calm, you won’t relive Monday all over again on Tuesday.

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June 13 is National Cupcake Lover’s Day

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Did you know cupcakes were first baked in tea cups?

Hence the name ‘cup’ cakes

Five Food Finds about Cupcakes

  •  Cupcake liners do more than make it easy to remove them from the pan. Traditionally, sides of tins are greased for easy removal, but also floured because the batter needs to have something to cling to. A cupcake liner takes care of both.
  • On August 15, 2009 GourmetGiftBaskets.com broke the world record for largest cupcake ever made. The cupcake was 1,224 pounds, 4 foot tall by 10 foot wide, and had 2 million calories.
  • One of the most popular cupcake bakery’s in the U.S. is Crumbs in New York City. They have reported $23.5 million in cupcake revenue last year alone!
  • The first mention of a cupcake recipe goes as far back as 1796. Amelia Simms wrote a recipe in “American Cookery” which referenced, “a cake to be baked in…

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Are You Hooked on Drugs?

Suppose you’ve been smoking marijuana, using heroine, cocaine, weed or some other drug for sometime, but you’re positive you can give it up anytime. And you’re pretty sure you are not addicted. But are you really certain?

Loss of control and denial are the two signs of being hooked on alcohol and other drugs. Denial is when you’re being dishonest with yourself about what you’re doing. Loss of control means you keep doing it despite problems like getting sick, failing in school, losing friends etc.

If you can’t wait for school to close, if you use it in the mornings, then you’ve got a serious problem. In short if you’re preoccupied with it, you’re in trouble.

Another danger sign is when all the things that have been important to you in the past – school, parents, friends, church – no longer matter.

Here are more clues that should warn you that you’re hooked or well on your way:

  • You find your moods and attitudes change quickly. You loose your temper suddenly, often without reason.
  • You start to cut classes and stop doing your homework; your grades begin to slip.
  • You fight with family members or friends when they try to talk to you about drugs.
  • You start to borrow or steal money from friends or family to buy drugs.
  • You become secretive about where you go and hide your activities from people you’ve always trusted before.
  • Your appearance gets sloppy because you just don’t care how you look anymore.
  • You experience physical symptoms from drug use – weight loss, tiredness, red eyes, etc.

If you show any of these signs or know someone who does, then you need to get help for yourself or the persondrugDriving_2612056b

I can’t do it………

Enhancing Your Self Esteem

Dele is an SS 2 student. He arrives at school on Tuesday morning and his soccer team-makes blame him for losing yesterday’s match, because he missed several scoring chances. At that moment, a teacher appears and “nails” him for using vulgar language on the school premises.

Ogechi, also an SS2 student, has been nominated as the Head Girl in her school. She runs home after school and tells her mother about this development. Her mother says she can’t listen to her at the moment because she is listening to the news.

Cases like these, often reduces one’s self-esteem. You feel dejected when someone accuses you wrongly or ignores you at a time you need their encouragement. Self-esteem is the judgment you make or the feeling you have about yourself. It could be high or low and is forever changing, and is a result of accumulation of events. An individual with high self- esteem recognises his or her own strength and skills, improves them and can accept successes and achievements. Such an individual relates easily with others and feels secure in social relationships. An individual with low self-esteem on the other hand, is somewhat “anti- social”, not confident and sees challenges as problems too much to cope with. An individual with high self-esteem recognises his or her own strength and skills, improves them and can accept successes and achievements. Such an individual relates easily with others and feels secure in social relationships. An individual with low self-esteem on the other hand, is somewhat “anti-social”, inconfident and sees challenges as problems too much to cope with. An individual might have low self-esteem, if he or she is constantly ignored, laughed at, disliked by peers or is shy and has trouble with intimacy. What ever the level of your self esteem, it still needs to be improved. Some ways of improving your self-esteem include:

Create a menu of self-esteem goals: Individuals with high self-esteem are goal-oriented and motivated by what they want to accomplish. Creating a menu of self- esteem goals, helps you recognise past accomplishments, identify your skills, strengths and shortcomings and makes you feel responsible. However, make sure your goals are realistic and can be achieved.

Create a self-esteem action plan: To achieve your goals, you have to be able to identify the steps needed to achieve them, possible setbacks and the resources you’ll need.

Believe in yourself: Many successful people are where they are today, because of the confidence they have in their abilities. Talking and thinking positively about yourself helps to achieve your goals faster.

Make special friends: Having special or best friend(s), helps to build your self- esteem. You’ll feel appreciated, loved and accepted. You could make a list of the qualities you want in your special friend, as this would guide you in making your choices.

Be socially responsible: This means being considerate. Look beyond yourself and reach out to others who are not as lucky as you. Giving to others, makes you feel good about yourself and enhances your self-esteem.

Identify your successes: Knowing that you have achieved your goal, greatly enhances your self-esteem. However, your successes might not be as you envisaged them. Learn to view your “failures” positively.self-esteem

Facing the challenges of Adolescence

Facing the Challenges of Adolescence

Adolescence is a turbulent period for most people. Understandably so – you are saddled with decisions about career, lifestyle and sex. As a male child, it is even more difficult – you also have to make decisions about drugs, alcohol, family etc. You are under a lot of pressure to live up to society’s definition of ‘a man’. Planning life directions can be especially difficult if you are ill-equipped on how to deal with situations that you face.

In order to enjoy a crisis-free adolescence and emerge a responsible adult, it is paramount that you possess skills such as decision-making, assertiveness and goal-setting skills. You also need to be able to take charge of your life. The following tips will help you to do just that:

Know your values
Your values are what you believe in, what you think is right or wrong, and what is most important to you. Decisions that you’ll make will be based on your values. You draw your values from a variety of sources, such as parents, family friends, religion, etc. However, do not ‘borrow’ other people’s values – let your values be yours.

Draw up a plan for your life
Many successful people set targets for themselves and are goal-oriented. Have a plan of what you want and how to go about getting it. Never wait till you get to the bridge before looking for ways to cross it – decide ahead what you want achieved by the time you are 20, 35, 50 etc.

Develop yourself
Your goals will remain dreams unless you develop yourself. Read books on diverse topics; gather facts about successful people and how they dealt with the difficult situation they faced. In short, broaden your horizon.

Have a role model
A role model is someone that you admire and respect; someone you look up to and want to be like. Choose a role model and deal with problems they way your role model would if he/she were faced with your problem. However, it is not advisable that you choose a TV star as your role model, because real-life is not usually as depicted in movies.

Make decisions
Decisions about career, sex, drugs and alcohol are usually some of the toughest decisions you will have to make as an adolescent. Before you make decisions, get facts about each choice, think properly about them, i.e. weigh the pros and cons; and discuss available options with your parents, a trusted friend or adult.

Be assertive
Being assertive means expressing your views about an issue without hurting the other person’s feelings. Behaviours that enhance assertiveness include honesty, speaking for yourself, communicating your feelings as they come up, instead of waiting; and being direct, i.e. use the “I” word. Communicate your feelings and don’t be cajoled into doing things contrary to your values. However, don’t be aggressive – aggressive behaviour shows a lack of concern for the other person’s feelings.

Learn a skill
The feeling that you have a skill is a positive one. There are various skills that you can learn – computer skills, teaching skills, writing skills, drawing skills or acting skills. These skills could in turn fetch you some money and give you some measure of independence. However, you must be ready to meet and overcome disappointments. You must be prepared to work as hard and as long as the situation demands.

Take advantage of holiday periods
Holiday periods are not meant only for fun and play – they are also a time to do something different from the routine school work. Holiday periods can be spent learning poetry, bookkeeping, car maintenance, interior decorating, etc; or acquiring knowledge about issues that range from wildlife and nature to politics and government. These you could do and still have fun.

Believe in yourself
Above all, believe in yourself. Many successful people are where they are today, because of the confidence they have in their abilities. Talking and thinking positively about yourself helps to achieve your goals faster. Believe you can rise above every difficult situation and make a success of them. Do not let negative comment from people set you back. Growing up is all about making decisions – some good, some bad. However, do not let bad decisions discourage you. A popular song sums it up: “there’s a hero if you look inside your heart.
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Screen with claws

Screen with Claws? Really I have no idea what that means but this is what came to my mind when I took my pen. We wish to wear high brands,but feel most comfortable in pyjamas. We wish to sit in expensive places with elite poeple,but enjoy roadside vendor food with friends…we have 64gb Ipods filled with songs but sometimes a song on a radio brings beautiful smiles. That’s the Irony of life….but what do u call this? Airports have seen more affectionate kisses than wedding halls, the walls of hospitals have heard more sincere prayers than the walls of temples and churches….Pizza….always confuses us..it comes in a square box, when u open it,its round and when u start eating it, its triangle…The Irony of What? Life? For me life and people are also like the pizza, look different, appear different, and behave absolutely different.

Change doesn’t start with Gen. Buhari.

Now that Gen. Buhari Muhammed has been declared the new president of Nigeria 2015_2019, he has vouched that “change. Has come and a new day and a new Nigeria is upon us, but let us take a re-think about the changes we as Nigerians want for the country. Do you think that Nigeria will just change like that in a twinkle of an eye? This our new president is not a miracle worker, have you ever thought that change starts with you? If only we do our part by not taking that bribe, stop eye service because you want a raise in your allowance,stop littering the streets, stop beating the traffic, how about having the required papers and a valid drivers license just to avoid embarrassment from the VIOs, avoid drinking and driving, all of these little rules if only we begin to abide by them thing will begin to turn around for our own good. Let us be law abiding and peaceful.
GOD BLESS NIGERIA!